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Religion, culture and homosexuality


Culture and religion

Some of the attitudes against homosexuality are rooted in cultural beliefs. In countries where same-sex relationships are not accepted, lesbians and gay men are more likely to hide their sexuality and may even marry a person of the opposite sex. Where this is the case, many people within that culture will assume that lesbian and gay people do not exist. In countries where homosexuality is hidden in this way, the only lesbian and gay people who are visible are those in western countries. This can lead to the mistaken assumption that homosexuality is a product of western values. 

Lack of visibility of LGBT people is exacerbated in countries where homosexual acts are illegal and may lead to imprisonment or even the death penalty. In these countries, homophobic acts against LGBT people are often acceptable and may even be perpetrated by people in powerful positions within that country. Where people are hiding their sexuality, there are no positive role models and those lesbian and gay people who are identified are perceived as criminals.

The reality is that homosexuality exists within every human culture and is a natural part of human diversity. 


Religion

Many religions experience controversy over the matter of homosexuality. This might seem surprising since nearly all religions preach tolerance, kindness and respect for one another.

On the other hand, marriage to a person of the opposite sex is central to many religions and cultures and may make the concept of non-heterosexual identities hard to accept. So far, only the Quaker church has agreed to allow Quaker registering officers to register same-sex partnerships in the same way as marriages (August 2009).

This makes things very difficult for parents who find themselves unsupported by their faith when a child comes out. It is not uncommon in these circumstances for parents to change their place of worship or to leave their religion altogether:



At this time I found it very difficult to reconcile my churchgoing and...Christian beliefs with my growing understanding of the terrible prejudice and bigotry with which many gay people are treated. I wrote an article for the church magazine (with the agreement of the vicar), telling honestly about our son and our experiences. As he had gone to the Sunday school, the people there knew Mike. I was hoping simply to help people I regarded as my friends to understand a rather complex and hidden subject. How naive I was! Not one person mentioned the article to me. The silence was deafening... I severed all connection with the local church and eventually, religion of any description...

 

...I felt very strongly that I did not want to belong to any organisation that might think our son was an "abomination".


Brenda Oakes

Co-founder of FFLAG


 


In the case of homosexuality, religion is, sadly, too often: '...a source of conflict rather than solace' (ChildLine casenotes, NSPCC website, 2010)

 

However, there are clearly debates taking place within some religions, and, whilst the turbulence that this causes may be uncomfortable, it is reassuring to see that those discussions are taking place. Most of the major religions now have some followers who are working towards a more tolerant and respectful approach towards homosexuality.

Some religions now distinguish between homosexuality and homosexual acts, but are often unclear about what constitutes a 'homosexual act'. After all, heterosexual people participate in all sexual acts, (see section on Sexual Relationships) and there is no sexual act which is specific to either lesbian or gay people. In practice, this distinction does nothing to protect younger people who still experience homophobic bullying in school, even though they are not sexually active.

For some religions (for example, the Anglican faith) these debates are taking place across continents and are probably reflective of different cultural attitudes towards homosexuality as much as religious ones.



'The central text of the Sikh religion, the Sri Guru Granth Sahib, does not mention homosexuality, and none of the Gurus gave a view of homosexuality. However, Punjabi culture is extremely homophobic, and because almost all Sikhs are Punjabi in ethnicity, this can sometimes cause tensions to arise between gay Sikhs and their families as a whole.'

SARBAT, for followers of the Sikh religion


A recent study by Stonewall: 'Love Thy Neighbour: What people really think about homosexuality' (2008) has shown that many people of faith are accepting of lesbian and gay people and co-exist in harmony. Religious objections to lesbian and gay sexuality are more likely to be promoted by religious leaders, rather than followers. Sometimes the views of religious leaders views come over as homophobic, especially when reported in particular ways in the media. This is not helpful, and can perpetuate hate crime and bullying. 

Religious homophobia

People of faith have every right to expect respect for their beliefs. People of faith, of course, have the right to their religious views, but where anti-gay religious views are expressed in such a way that they cause distress to other people, then they can be described as homophobic. The fact that the views are coming from a religious perspective is in no way redeeming. Religious homophobia is no more justifiable or acceptable than the homophobia which occurs in the football stands or in the streets.



'The ‘Big Question’ on Sunday morning was discussing whether homosexuality should be celebrated, and one very vociferous woman was talking about how 'sinful' it was. I become so emotional when I hear this that if other people are with me they may guess about my son, and he is not yet ready to come out. My husband tells me that I need to be discreet, but I sometimes find it so difficult. I do hope that our sons will some day be able to stand up and feel proud.'

A parent from Families Together London



(Our section on Action offers guidance to professionals working with young or otherwise vulnerable people. See also: 'Guidance for Teachers and School Governors' under Education).

Religious texts

Our concept of lesbian and gay identities today is likely to be very different indeed from the way things were understood in the past, which is why religious texts are not always helpful guides in these matters.

People who have a point of view to uphold will search ancient writings for evidence to support their views. However, it can sometimes be helpful to compare religious texts with current practice. For example, some Muslim states punish homosexuality, but the Koran itself preaches tolerance and says nothing about punishment of lesbian and gay people.

We actually have very little knowledge of how same-sex love was understood in past times. The words and stories of ancient texts may also be interpreted and understood in different ways.

For those who wish to study these issues further:

  • The LGCM (Lesbian and Gay Christian Movement) has produced short pamphlet called: 'Abomination? A short introduction to what the bible says about same-sex relationships'
  • The Methodist Lesbian and Gay Caucus has produced a pamphlet called: 'God and Gays according to the Bible' - 9, Polruan Road, Chorlton-cum-Hardy, Manchester M21 9NR.

  • SARBAT provides a pamphlet entitled: ‘Sikhism and Same Sex Relationships’
  • The ‘Imaan’ website has a section called: ‘Islam and Sexuality FAQs'


The catechism of the Catholic Church says that homosexual people:
 
‘…must be treated with respect, compassion and sensitivity. Every sign of unjust discrimination in their regard should be avoided.’ 

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Religion and human rights

However long ago, most religions were born out of an essential human goodness and respect for others which resonates with today's emphasis on fairness and equality. These are the ideals that underpin the human rights movement. Despite their differences, there is one place where we might reasonably expect all religions to stand, and that is on the side of human rights.

Sometimes, however, there are situations where there are perceived to be conflicting rights, and we all need help in working out the best way to behave in these situations. Stonewall, for example, provides guidance for employers on managing perceived tensions between sexual orientation and religion.

Resources

'Love Thy Neighbour: What people really think about homosexuality' (2008) - www.stonewall.org.uk

Interfaith Networks

Interfaith Alliance - www.interfaithalliance.org.uk
Religious Tolerance - Religious groups' policies and beliefs about homsexuality - www.relgioustolerance.org

The Christian Faith

Welcoming Christian Church Directory – a world-wide directory of gay-friendly churches – find a place or community to worship in and belong to - www.gaychurch.org/Find_a_Church/find_a_church.htm

The European Forum of Lesbian and Gay Christian Groups working for equality for lesbian and gay people within and through the Christian churches of Europe -
www.euroforumlgbtchristians.eu

The Lesbian and Gay Christian movement, a UK-based international charity for an inclusive church, an ecumenical (though primarily Anglican) organisation; membership is open to all  Christians -
www.lgcm.org.uk

Young LGBT Christians - a group for 16–30-year-old Christians to meet, socialise and support each other - www.ylgc.org.uk

The Metropolitan Community Church is a Christian Church for LGBT communities - www.mcceastlondon.org.uk; www.mccnorthlondon.org.uk; www.mccsouthlondon.org.uk

Anglican
The Inclusive Church is for Anglican Church followers who support inclusion - www.inclusivechurch.net

Changing Attitude an LGBT Anglican network - www.changingattitude.org.uk 
 
 
Catholic
Catholic group linked to LGCM - lgcm_rccaucus@hotmail.com
 
The Soho Masses – a Catholic Mass for LGBT people is held at St Anne’s Church in Soho, London, every first and third Sunday of the month, at 5 pm - sohomasses.googlepages.com
 
Quest, a goup for lesbian and gay Catholics - www.questgaycatholic.org.uk

 
Evangelical
Courage – an Evangelical organisation for lesbian, gay and bisexual Christians - www.courage.org.uk

Ekklesia, evangelical fellowship for lesbian and gay Christians - www.ekklesia.co.uk

The Evangelical Fellowship for Lesbian and Gay Christians - www.eflgc.org
 
 
Methodist
United Methodists for LGBT concerns - www.umaffirm.org
 
 
Mormon
Affirmation: Gay & Lesbian Mormons serves the needs of gay Mormon women and men, as well as bisexual and transgender LDS and their supportive family and friends, through social and educational activities - www.affirmation.org  


The Hindu Faith

Galva: Gay and Lesbian Vaishnava Association - www.galva108.org

 

The Jewish Faith

The Jewish Gay and Lesbian Group - www.jglg.org.uk

The Muslim Faith

Al-Fatiha foundation, promoting progressive Islamic notions of peace, equality and justice - www.al-fatiha.org

Imaan is a website for Muslim lesbians and gays - www.imaan.org.uk  Choose: 'For Parents'

The Safra Project, for lesbian, bisexual and/or trangender women who identify as Muslim religiously and/or culturally - www.safraproject.org

The Quilliam Foundation is a Muslim organisation seeking to challenge extremist ideology - www.quilliamfoundation.org 


The Sikh Faith

Sarbat, for followers of the Sikh religion - www.sarbat.net
 

Humanism

The Gay and Lesbian Humanist Association promotes an enlightened and rational approach to homsexuality - www.galha.org.uk